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Deep Breathing and Change

I won last night. For the first time in years. And I was elated. So elated in fact, that I lost to myself. There was a little bit of gloating involved. I teased Savannah just a bit. And rode my bike 2 miles roundtrip just to post a status update on facebook detailing my success. For somebody that is actively trying to pursue a lifestyle of contentment, simplicity, happiness and all around goodness, I definitely feel as though I screwed up last night.

But as I am becoming increasingly aware, everything is a process. Changing something as fundamental as a thought pattern isn’t something that you can just do overnight. Certainly it’s something that I can make an effort to change every night. And I believe that noticing those mistakes, those places that I am not acting or thinking or reacting in a way I really believe I should be acting or thinking or reacting is quite possibly one of the most important things I can do towards improving and changing those lifelong habits.

For instance, upon noticing that I was gloating and teasing last night, it would have been most appropriate for me to direct my excited thoughts towards more constructive outlets. At the very least it would have been more appropriate for me to just take a few deep, slow breaths.

In fact, taking a few deep slow breaths is one of the most effective things you can do to gain control of your mind period. Whether you’re stressed, excited, angry, frustrated, confused, terrified, or any other emotion, the simple act of taking 60 seconds worth (I like to shoot for 5 minutes) of deep slow breaths, 4 seconds in, 6 seconds out while thinking of nothing but your breathing or visualizing how you would like to be acting differently can completely eliminate all traces of cortisol from your body, What I really like about this exercise though, is that it seems to have the ability to completely reframe the current moment and brings a sense of clarity that is otherwise extremely difficult to come by.

Deep breathing is just a small step in the process but if you’re looking to change a habit I strongly suggest you give it a shot. It’s well worth your time.



This feels cliché

“Life is full of Changes. Try and enjoy them. Let them help you become who were made to become. And let us dance with the uncertainty and the hope that every new day brings, no matter how distant from our expectations.”

And it absolutely does. Hey it’s the New Year! Imma start a Blog! HaHa!

Believe it or not, I can assure that the incoming of the year 2013 had nothing to do with the start of this Blog. Not that you probably care. But I kind of do.

Regardless of that fact, it is a new year, and it is a time for change.

Because change happens. It happens at a rate that we sometimes don’t expect. Everything might seem to stagnate but then, all at once, everything seems different, and we find ourselves looking upon the world with new eyes.

I had a blog before, but for some reason that I’m not sure I could explain, I found myself fearful of posting the things that I really wanted to say on the blog. Not because I was worried that in saying them I would be struck by some cosmic energy, but because it seems there are things at times that just aren’t suitably said when those who know your true identity can ‘hear’ you.

For instance, would you ever tell your girlfriend that you feel worthless for no particularly reason. Even if all you want to do is shout it out to the world and see what response you might get? What about, “I’m not sure where this thing is going but I don’t think I like it.” Maybe you would. But I just couldn’t bring myself to do it.

So, at the end of a year, and at the end of a relationship I have a new blog, where nobody knows who I really am.

And so, 400 words later, I’m not really doing this just to be cliché.  I’m doing this in an effort to recreate my place of becoming. Join me, or don’t join me, just try to be positive while you are here. Life is full of Changes. Try and enjoy them. Let them help you become who were made to become. And let us dance with the uncertainty and the hope that every new day brings, no matter how distant from our expectations.

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